There exists a state of being where my very soul sings. Perhaps you’ve felt it too—though maybe only briefly, like a distant memory or a fleeting glimpse in the rearview mirror. That moment when the purpose of your existence aligns perfectly with the simple joys of daily life. When ideas flow like water—beautiful ideas of how you can better serve those around you, ways you can, in your small way, change the world.
In this rare space, big and small things align, and peace beyond understanding fills you with joy and creative energy that cannot help but overflow into all aspects of life. I don’t believe in merely seeking flow—I believe in finding overflow, where inspiration spills into your conversations, where energy fuels your work, and where love deepens your relationships.
A life where your presence alone lifts the room.
This state is where we belong, where we ought to spend as much time as possible. We’ve all experienced it and desperately want it back. Yet as the brutal complexities of life pile up—often the side products of the very life we worked so hard to build—these shining moments become less frequent until they fade into distant memory. We settle for doing our best without this spark, and our light noticeably dims to those around us. Our loved ones, friends, and brothers and sisters in arms no longer get their spark lit by ours.
Many reading this will feel the inner resistance—that quiet but persistent voice that whispers, “It’s safer to stay where you are.” The inner skeptic would rather keep you in the known than risk the unknown, even if the unknown is better. Our minds are wired for survival, not for thriving, and so we hesitate to leave our familiar cave in search of a bigger, brighter, higher way of living. No wonder, as Henry David Thoreau observed, “most men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
This wasn’t meant to be a distant memory. This state of being—the one where you feel fully alive, aligned, and overflowing—was supposed to be your norm. And the good news? You can reclaim it. Not by wishing, not by waiting, but by returning to the natural rhythms of life that charge you up to serve, lead, and love at your highest capacity.
Time and time again, I see this misalignment clearly reflected in the Xponential Scorecard assessment results of hundreds of people who take it. A stark contrast between their inner state and their outer work, an incongruency between core human dimensions—the physical, emotional, vocational, and relational. By introducing these simple changes, I’ve seen entrepreneurs regain their spark, athletes perform at peak levels, families on the brink of divorce reconnect at a deeper level, and careers take off.
These are the four small changes you can introduce into your life right now that will produce big results in a matter of days, weeks, and months.
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