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“Either lower your goals or raise your habits.”
It’s a phrase I heard once, and it stuck with me.
For anyone with a vision, it’s both a challenge and a truth that stings a bit. Because if we’re honest, we often set lofty goals that feel just out of reach—and maybe that’s the point.
Goals should push us. But when we struggle to reach them, it’s usually not the goals that are the issue. It’s our habits.
I’m a massive fan of J.S. Bach. Arguably the greatest composer who ever lived, his music fills the room whenever I write. Bach was a man of faith, yet he was known to lose his temper—especially around sloppy musicians.
I’ve observed this trait in many extraordinary people I’ve been around. Here’s what we need to understand about high achievers who we admire. When they surprise us with a little edge - It’s not about anger or pride; it’s the baffling frustration when people with potential miss the mark on mastery.
Because here’s the thing: mastery is never about one extraordinary moment. It’s the steady commitment to doing something over and over, with care and intention, until excellence becomes second nature.
And the good news? Most people are capable of much more than they think.
Think about it: we dream big, feel inspired, and write down these grand visions of what life could be. But goals are a distant star, and habits are the ship we need to get there. They’re the quiet, steady force in the background, moving us closer even when we don’t see progress day by day.
So, instead of lowering the bar, let’s talk about raising the habits that will carry us across the finish line.
Why Habits Matter More Than Motivation
Motivation gets a lot of attention. It’s what makes us feel ready to take on the world. But motivation is like a spark—it’s thrilling at first but fades all too quickly. Habits, though—habits are like the embers of a fire. They burn steady and low, keeping you warm long after the spark fades.
If you’re someone who sets ambitious goals, you can’t rely on feeling motivated every day. Instead, you need habits that become so ingrained they practically run on autopilot. They’re what carry you through on the days when motivation decides to sleep in.
The Power of “Raising Your Habits”
So, what does it mean to “raise your habits”? It’s about lifting the standard of your everyday actions to match the life you’re striving for. Here’s a truth: we’re all living at the level of our habits, not our hopes. You don’t need a new goal to reach new heights—you need better habits.
Start small. High performance isn’t about radical changes overnight. It’s about those daily steps—small but consistent—that stack up over time. Maybe it’s dedicating 20 minutes each morning to learning, hitting the gym three days a week, or blocking an hour weekly for reflection and refocus. Consistency, not complexity, is the real magic here. Big dreams are built from small, consistent habits.
How to Build Habits That Last
Here’s a simple playbook for habits that stick:
1. Start Small, Stay Consistent
Quick wins build trust with yourself—trust that you’ll show up, even when it’s tough. Begin with something you know you can stick to.
2. Prioritize Showing Up Over Perfection
Perfection is tempting but overrated. Success isn’t a straight line; it’s a collection of showing up, day after day, especially when no one is watching.
3. Find Accountability
Bring someone in who shares your vision or can help you stay on track. Share your goals and progress. Having someone check in on you makes the commitment feel real.
Rhythms of Rest
Raising your habits doesn’t mean pushing yourself to exhaustion. We all fall into the trap of thinking more is better, but smart work beats constant work every time. Balance is key to sustaining peak performance. Build in habits that restore and recharge you—physical activity, short breaks, intentional quiet time. These aren’t luxuries; they’re the fuel that keeps you going for the long haul.
A Simple Challenge
So here’s a question: Are you ready to raise your habits if you’re not ready to lower your goals?
Look at one goal that matters deeply to you. Just one. Identify one or two small habits that could help you get there. Maybe it’s spending an extra 10 minutes each day on a skill you want to master or setting aside a few minutes each morning for intentional focus.
Either lower your goals or raise your habits. But if you’re still reading, I think you know which choice you’ll make. And that’s the first step to mastering the art of consistency—for a life of high performance, purpose, and lasting impact.
To see how small changes in habits can lead to a dramatic transformation, check out my conversation with Xponential alum Tyler Gauntt. Tyler’s story is a powerful example of what’s possible when you commit to raising your habits.
What I’m listening to If you’re curious about JS. Bach - this is a good podcast about his life and music.
What I’m watching: For All Humankind - a great TV series on Apple TV + about an alternative story of space exploration. Set in the early 80s and thoroughly enjoyable.
Great post with spot on message! We must be consistent for things to organically flo! Creating space for that which you would like to see is also a great habit!
Keep sharing, shining ✨️ and thriving!
OneLove