Renew Your Mind and Succeed on Autopilot: The Four Shifts
The Xponential Life Framework
“The phrase "It's easy for you to say" may be the most self-defeating six words in the English language, underscoring an apparent unfair advantage.
If we drop the “unfair” part as something entirely subjective and impossible to pin down, the sentiment is still familiar to all of us. We look at the uphill climb of career or calling and see someone near the proverbial top with resources we can only dream of.
The antidote to this disempowering mindset unfolds in two steps.
First - our feelings regarding someone else's advantage—be it in wealth, connections, education, intelligence, or resources—constitute a consequence rather than the source of their success. For instance, a striking statistic reveals that around 80% of millionaires in the U.S. are the first in their families to achieve affluence. Clearly, their advantage originates not from pre-existing resources but from the capacity to envision a distinct future.
Second - what we feel about someone’s advantage over us comes from comparing ourselves to them as apples to apples. Yes, there are general buckets of “success” - family, work, industry, lifestyle, money but these are broad, and what we are missing is the uniqueness of our path within those buckets.
In other words, if you are an orange, you should not obsess over the life of an apple, as in no version of your future will you become one. The better alternative is first orienting yourself towards other oranges and then finding a path that is unique to you.
That persistent fire in your heart telling you there must be more to your life than “this” is an inner knowing of this calling. Most will ignore it out of fear, continuing to live someone else’s dream and life.
Consider me an unusual orange—a Chilean/Russian residing in my sixth country, professionally scattered across roles as an evangelist, investor, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and coach. "Pick a lane," they say. Valid advice, yet all these facets coexist and harmonize in my unique citrus existence.
I’ll tell you what will happen if you: 1. Focus on your ability to imagine a different way. 2. Discover your unique calling and pursue it wholeheartedly.
People will start saying the same six words about you - “It’s easy for you to say.”
Breaking this cycle is our passion at Xponential as we help people take a quantum leap in their careers and calling. Watch this video to see exactly how this happens. To dig in deeper, visit the website and scroll down to the testimonial section with short video interviews of some of our graduates.
What I’m reading:
What Just Happened? - a newsletter by Patti Asaad. Patti is a dear friend with a wealth of wisdom in navigating the unexpected.
The Business Bible - I recently met the founder, Nicolas Leone, who kindly sent me a beautiful copy as a gift. The entrepreneur and economist in me is in binge mode reading this. This Bible is focused on the economics and business dimensions in Scripture. I have long studied these timeless principles, but this is the first time I’ve seen someone create a publication that goes through the entirety of the Bible, looking at events, principles, and values from a business lens.
What I’m watching:
Leave the World Behind is a great movie that just came out on Netflix. Julia Roberts does not pick bad scripts. This one is particularly good, unpredictable, and nonformulaic.